I hope you and the kiddos are home safe now! I am shocked (but then not really) at your H and his egregious behavior! It's so far out there it's almost laughable, but I think "pitiful" is a more suitable description of him.
So he is basically running from his entire life and wants to start over with some OW far away? He is giving up spending time with the most important thing (his R with his 3 sons) for some floozy? And this is a repeat offense? This speaks volumes about his character! I also think we all know how that's going to end. My hope for you is that in the mean time you can genuinely detach from him and the idea of even wanting him back. That way when he comes crawling back in a year or what have you, you can put your hand up and feel great about it!
It's mostly unfortunate for the boys that they will not have their dad around; young kids need frequency and consistency. The reality tho, is even if he has been around in the last while, he has not been present for them: he has been distracted and self centered. I am suggesting that the loss of him (and even for them) may not be as great as it seems. And the benefit to you--not having the stress of him coming/going--might be a huge relief in the coming months/year. You have wonderful support around you and you and the boys will be just fine!
Keep us posted :-) Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela