Every time I get those rejected feelings, I'm trying to remind myself that what he's actually rejected is not ME, but: having to think, having to care, having to make effort, and having to recognize someone's needs other than his own. And ultimately I have rejected him stepping all over me by not putting up with this "being put on hold" nonsense. Hopefully it works...

Me:30 H:29, no kids
T:12, M:4 (when D was final)
12/13: "Don't think I want to be M anymore"
6/14: Separated (I move)
1/15: H filed for D
5/15: D final