Yeah, I sort of learnt it, but didn't know how to find the words when I can see their side.

I always felt seeing their side, meant giving up your side giving up your needs by comprising.

My h thinks that I cannot see his side due to wanting the stettlement and seeing his side would mean forgoing it.

These sessions and threads should be pinned as the script it universal. It helped me before to nicely stand up to a bully. I do know how to stand up in a much more confrontational way, but this really makes clear what you need.

Then it means you can take actions like walk away.

M 46 h54
Both married before
T 11y
Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads!
Ms 18 hs 26