Thanks for your input. Don't worry about being long winded...I can be too lol.
I do understand that as much as I think/hope I know my W after all these years, it's a possibility that I don't and there's an OM. I get that.
All I'm really saying is that as it stands, I believe her.
I may be back writing on here one day that I got it wrong and she was cheating at the time or that there's an OM on the scene now, but as it stands, I believe her.
She's my wife, I love her, and there's no evidence of it that I know of (and trust me, I've looked for any). If I let my mind convince me there is someone else and there actually isn't, all I'm doing is making myself illl for no reason. The stats may well be against me, but for the time being, I'll remain positive. What'll happen if it ever does turn out there's someone, I don't know.
There's lots of good advice in your post and insight into what to expect if OM appears or comes to light so I thank you for that.
I'm going to really work on the detachment and GAL and see where that takes me, it's really all I have and it has been helping if not my M as yet, my own sanity!
I definitely think I'm in the right place.
Me 40 W 38 T 23 M 21 S21 S19 D16 S14 BD 19/12/2014 D mentioned 27/2/2015. I filed 08/04/2015, D Absolute 04/11/2015