Great POV, paul. (FTR, I promise I wasn't trying to generalize or stereotype). But now that a man is "on the line," a question: do you think a wayward H - or one who is not showing signs of commitment - is thinking about sex or sexual-attraction in the same way as a man in a committed R (or one who WISHES to be in one)? Speaking in generalizations only, do you think a wayward H views sex the same as the way you're describing above? As a way to feel connected?

T, not trying to change the subject AT ALL from your life. I think this could actually be quite relevant ...

M: 40 H: 44
Married 14 years
S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M
2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart
Piecing: April 2014