I'm 99.999% sure that she hasn't cheated (I know that every mug that's ever been cheated on says that but she really isn't that sort of person).
Neither was I that sort of person.
If she hasn't already cheated, she has her eye on the next guy.
Look, it is great to think in the positive, but you need to be realistic, too. You keep saying you are doing all this work on yourself for YOU, but if you discovered today that she had OM, would you feel the same way? Just be prepared, is all I'm saying. Getting in shape, etc., is great, but seldom impresses a WAW to change her mind. So I really hope it is for you and not her. One way to know is when you want to meet up with her so she'll notice your changes.
Sandi Former Cheater
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!