I think the "my behaviour" thing and the "there's something I need to tell you" thing are 2 different issues. But who know.
Yeah, it drives me crazy.

M: 59 W: 53
M: 9 yrs
T: 14 yrs
No kids together but D30(hers), S27, S24, D21(all 3 mine)
W moved out 11/18/2013
D-Day 12/14/2013
W moved back home 12/1/2014