"What's this Dobson letter that people mention every now and them?"

It's in the book "Love Must be Tough". However it doesn't necessarily apply to your situation because you neglected her needs and just cared about your own.

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.