My Lord. That last paragraph is soap opera material. Aren't you glad you learned to detach!
I'm reminded of an old roadrunner cartoon. Wily Coyote has a long stick, and he's poking pebbles out of a land bridge directly above him, which ultimately collapses and crushes him in a pile of boulders. Just before the collapse, he holds up a sign that says "What in Heaven's name am I doing?"
I'm wondering if the WAS really does have that moment, where suddenly they recognize, "Wow, wrecked two marriages, I'm the father of a child of a married woman who isn't my wife, etc. etc."
I'm way too early in this process to have seen that yet, but that has to be one helluva moment. I'm truly grateful that my personal choices won't put me in that position.