Thanks all! It's nice to know that I'm not the only one struggling with these questions and situations!

Overall, this week has been good. I mean, he has been trying hard to meet all the "boundaries" I set. He has been home every day this week (at least physically). We've talked and I've been acting positive and happy, as I would with any "roommate". No extra efforts...

Yesterday, I took off in the evening to grab a cup of coffee alone and read a book at the local coffee shop. There were people laughing, couples talking, I thought I was going to have a meltdown but finished my coffee (stayed about 45 minutes) and returned home. He asked if I had fun, and I could feel the tears swell up. He asked what's wrong. I said, nothing" but he insisted. So I said, “it was hard for me to do that and be around people that are genuinely happy". He bowed his head, let out a sigh...OOOPS!! I said, "But I'm ok! I'm good, I did what I set out to accomplish"...he seemed to relax and the rest of the evening was ok. He came out with me when I took the dog for a walk. He initiated conversation about his mental health while I listened. Up and down the stairs he would come and go either to smoke, get a drink, etc. I watched TV quietly and then went to bed.

This morning I expected him to be out when I woke up. He hasn't seen the OW all week...I'm sure they talk and text but I find it odd. He seems to be living in that basement. Spends all day/night playing video games. He has stopped doing any chores around the house but I don’t bring that up and do them myself, mind because I would do them for myself

Thanks all! It's nice to know that I'm not the only one struggling with these questions and situations!

Overall, this week has been good. I mean, he has been trying hard to meet all the "boundaries" I set. He has been home every day this week (at least physically). We've talked and I've been acting positive and happy, as I would with any "roommate". No extra efforts...

Yesterday, I took off in the evening to grab a cup of coffee alone and read a book at the local coffee shop. There were people laughing, couples talking, I thought I was going to have a meltdown but finished my coffee (stayed about 45 minutes) and returned home. He asked if I had fun, and I could feel the tears swell up. He asked what's wrong. I said, “nothing" but he insisted (and I fell for it). So I said, “it was hard for me to do that, go out for coffee alone, and be around people that are genuinely happy". He bowed his head, let out a sigh...OOOPS!! I said, "But I'm ok! I'm good, I did what I set out to accomplish"...he seemed to relax and the rest of the evening was ok. He came out with me when I took the dog for a walk. He initiated conversation about his mental health while I listened. Up and down the stairs he would come and go either to smoke, get a drink, etc. I watched TV quietly and then went to bed.

This morning I expected him to be out when I woke up. He hasn't seen the OW all week...I'm sure they talk and text but I find it odd. He seems to be living in that basement. Spends all day/night playing video games. He has stopped doing any chores around the house but I don’t bring that up and do them myself, i don't mind because I would do them for myself and I know he can't do them right now (doc said he might be bipolar, he's seeing a specialist next week)..

My bday is tomorrow. I have plans tonight, and I'm fully booked tomorrow...haven't said anything and don't plan to unless he asks...I was a little sad this morning thinking that it's been a month since my world collapsed, and all the things I set out to accomplish this year involved "us". I guess I'll have to take some time and see what I plan to accomplish for me this year... unfortunately, having a baby can't be done solo! Lol! And that is the one thing I have the most trouble accepting...I was to be pregnant by now!! I guess all things happen for a reason and I'm glad we don't have kids while I go through this...taking care of the dog is enough for me! lol! I commend all mothers out there and bow to them for their strength if they are living through this...


Me: 36
H: 36
No kids
EA/PA confirmed: 02-Jan-2014
Separate bedrooms/still living together