After stepping back, I realized that I shouldn't have jumped on him when he came through the door (even though she was waiting outside for him). I might be making excuses for him but I truly believe he's confused. If he "wakes up" and tells me with certainty that he wants to try to see if we can fix the M or whether he wants out (and not because I am forcing him to make a decision), then I will act accordingly.
In the meantime, I am closing myself off, this way I don't get hurt anymore, applying LRT, and slowly start preparing MY future.
Thanks everyone for your words of encouragement! It's hard to hold onto "hope" while trying hard not to get hurt even more.
Me: 36 H: 36 No kids EA/PA confirmed: 02-Jan-2014 Separate bedrooms/still living together