Look I am open to advice, but all I am getting are questions.

Coach: "I ask because your actions show me that you are OK with it."

Me: Please be specific??

Coach: "Your wife thinks the same thing. Do you think what you have been doing is bringing more love into the relationship or pushing her away?"

Me: What specifically??

Coach: "If you think it is bringing more love please explain why? Why would being passive push her away?"

Me: Nothing so far has been bringing more love. Being passive is pushing her away by signaling toleration of the EA.

JTB: "Coach is trying to help Pickle, and what he is suggesting worked well for him."

Me: What specifically is he suggesting? I am open to suggestions.

JTB: "He is right about the proper tools, got to know what the job is to know what tools to bring to bear on it."

Me: I am being served at 9:00 AM tomorrow. The only job left is to make present the cold reality and in the process destroy the fantasy.

Remember what I posted earlier: texting and phone calls every spare minute of every day, another planned rendevous in February.

If anyone has a better suggestion, please quit asking questions and be specific.


Me 53 XW 50
M 18 Years +2
S14 D19
Bomb 10-24-10
Served 1-27-11
Mediate 4-21-11
Civil D Final 6-2-11
No church anullment
"A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."