All three would be subject to no dating and no seeing the OM. (no control over email and texting anyway)

So once she divorces you then you want to set a boundary?

Has what you have been doing working?

Do some research on what women find attractive. Be that man.

M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12
Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.