I've read so many threads here by Coach, Puppy, and Sandi2 that talk about leading, attractiveness, and making changes for you. I feel that's what I'm trying to do not for her but for me. I have made a choice that I want to be happy. I've told my W the same and said I hope you'll come along for the ride.
good job on the positive changes. Try not to make grand pronouncements to your wife about them, as they'll only come across as pursuing. Just LIVE THEM, and, trust me, she will notice.
"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time