Not that it's a huge difference, but I have no proof of any A, and if I do, it's only an EA, not a PA...
It's why she can't stand her parents, you or her family. It's a big deal. Someone connecting with your wife emotionally is a big deal. You need some solid intel. DB with a EA/PA is different than without. Know the game before you start playing.
"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time