I know the time is coming for me to leave these boards, so I just wanted to say....the lessons I learned here, and the support I received were invaluable in helping me build my self esteem, learn to speak up for my needs and assert myself in my M...

First, 'Love thy neighbor as thyself'. Thank you, thank you for sharing that with me Coach. I could never figure out how you knew that was really my biggest problem, just from my first post. And it took me ages to figure out what you meant!

Second, please please everybody, focus on yourself first - do everything you can to enrich your own life outside of your marriages...finally helped me get through my skull that you can't get excited and energized about the potential of your present and future if you can't let the pain of your past go.