You don't want to tell your wife about your exposure efforts...You want HER to tell YOU she found out... It OUTS her...don't wave exposure in your wife's face, that's not the objective... It's to END the affair and protect your home.... You revealing your exposure efforts to your wife doesn't do that.. It just antagonizes her...
"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time
