If anyone out there has ideas for doing some stuff that is spontaneous and fun let me know. I am trying to do things and invite her along but still go if she doesn't want to go. I got the basic ones like dinner, movies, baseball games, card game with friends, etc. I am looking for something that would be unique and "out of character" of what she expects from me.
This is why (to some), I beat the "cheating" thing to death.
If she IS still involved with OM, these things above would be PURSUIT, and NOT a good DB idea right now.
If she ISN'T, then these are not only a good idea, but necessary to begin to rebuild intimacy and spontaneity in the relationship.
As you can see, quite a dilemma.
"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time