Congrats, RT! Yeah, the exposure thing does work, but in hindsight, I wish I would have exposed to a slightly smaller circle of people (I would have omitted MY family, and some not-very-close friends), but other than that, I have NO REGRETS. I fought for my marriage, IT WORKED, and my wife even THANKED ME for fighting for her!
Please continue to post, and follow Allen's advice about FT (preferably with a MC/FT with specific training in dealing with infidelity) and transparency. It's IMPERATIVE, as -- without it -- the recidivism rate for affairs is VERY high. But WITH it, you guys have a great shot at building your marriage even better than ever!!
"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time