Originally Posted By: Coach
What is the key to validate without adding things from myself?

I understand...

I can see....

I hear you saying ......

What would make you feel_______________?

How can I help you?

Read "Learned Optimism" by Martin Seligman. Google his name and do some reading on explanatory styles.

You really don't know what your H thinks, feels or believes. Would you be here if you did? When in doubt ask him.

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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