Originally Posted By: Coach
I got told by H that "I don't understand him and don't care" when I tried to be upbeat and he was down.

Come on people that's mind-reading - when someone else tells you what you think, believe or feel.

"You don't understand>" - "I can see how from your perpsective it might seem that way. So help me. What is it you want me to understand?"

"You don't care." - "I understand you feel that way. I want you to know I do care. Why is it you feel like I don't care."

yes, the reason they feel like that is because they feel like they are not being listened to or seen. Why would someone mindread? become aware of why and how this occurs.

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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