As far as "asking" her about MC, I think it would be better to just get dressed and act as if and plan to go. After you are dressed you can say something like, "I'm going to our appointment." Don't ask her if she's going....just leave. That shows her something. It shows her that you are not clinging to her skirt-tail and it doesn't put the same type of pressure on her as it was before.
When you constantly check her temp to see "where she's at in this"....that puts more resentment in her heart. I'm speaking from personal experience.
"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time