Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
As far as sacrificing goes, I agree for the most part. I have done it with friends and I get that. With the wife, I am slowing learning that with the way she feels towards me, it may be best for me to sacrifice. I just do not see how it is in the best interest for our children. There are just too many negatives.

I don't understand this paragraph. Sacrifice? You're not a martyr. We repeatedly tell you to protect yourself and your children. Not once has anybody recommended that you martyr yourself.

Giving up on trying to control somebody else or taking back control of yourself does not involve sacrifice. You never had control of anybody else, and nobody else controlled you. We are asking you to understand that: self-control, controlling yourself is the one thing you CAN do.

You can't pick and choose the events that you must respond to in your life, but you can determine how you will respond to them. You can let your emotions drive your responses (prisons are full of people who do this all of the time), or you can let your principles determine your actions.

Your emotions--the anger, sadness, joy, frustration, discontentment, contentment, and so on--are perfectly OK. Go ahead and feel ALL of them, but your actions do not need to be driven by your emotions. It's OK to feel emotions and even to share what you are feeling (e.g. right now I am angry, and I'll get back to you when I have had time to think about this), but it's not OK to act on your emotions (e.g. I punched you in the face because you made me mad).

See? We are asking you to Think before you act, and then act according to your principles as if God himself were there with you watching what you do.

How is your GAL going?

You have a regular fitness routine and nutrition program?

You sleeping well?

What are you doing to take care of yourself?

On a flight, the attendants tell you to put on your oxygen mask first before you try to help anybody else, so... are you taking care of YOU?

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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