My wife felt like the last two weeks, where I had dropped the rope, that I was becoming cold and detached. So it's a fine line.
It just means you don't get it yet. Dropping the rope doesn't mean you are cold and detached. It means her problems are her problems, you are busy taking care of yourself, you don't get baited into a fight, you will let her come to you when she is ready, you are responsible for your own happiness and you won't waste energy on pursuing her. Be a cat whisperer.
"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time