....but discussing future finances and selling of assets probably isn't productive to your R and M. The next time she brings it up, and what worked for me, should go something like this:
W: I think we should talk about selling X. H: Hmm. Really? W: Yes, I think we should because of XYZ. H: I'll have to think about that. W: What's there to think about? It makes sense. H: Maybe so, but I'd like to think about it.
The longer you don't talk about these things, the more it becomes less of a priority. I made the mistakes of laying out all finances and custody arrangements, etc in the beginning, and I wish that I hadn't.
"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time