Originally Posted By: Puppy Dog Tails
Strong men are men of much ACTION, and very few WORDS. And it is a tenet of DB to not TALK about your changes, but to live them out, quietly and confidently, in front of the runaway spouse....She's not looking for a chick best friend -- she's looking for a husband who will make a strong, principled stand to fight for his marriage, in my opinion.

You are like me -- you fancy yourself a wordsmith. I thought if I could just put together JUUUUST the right combination of words, and deliver in them in JUUUUUUUUUST the right way, I could win my wife back and make her see the error of her ways.

Unh-uh. Doesn't work that way.

Look, I"m not saying that everything you've written isn't TRUE and GOOD. It probably is (again, I never made it thru it all). I'm saying that "making grand pronouncements" about your changes doesn't work.

I think you need to shoot for about 90% less. Seriously.
The less words, the bigger the punch. Actions always speak louder than words.


"What is best for my kids is best for me"

Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time