Can you get a female to call your house up pretending to be interested in you and leave your wife to answer?
You want to tell your wife "No, you just tell her I am not interested unless my divorce is final. I am not talking to other women right now."
And when she hangs up and asks why this woman is calling :
"My idiot friend knows how difficult you are being about all this and its trying to set me up to make me feel better. That won't and I know it. I am honoring my commitments and I don't need female interference right now. I have projects on the go here anyhow."
I dunno... something like that... Just to see what kind of reaction she offers up...
"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time