Leaving her a card, treats, and having phone sex with her right after she cops to all of her infidelity is your idea of "taking it slow?"

Go back and read your post, CP. Look at what it is she's responding to: tough legal stance, putting yourself out there to other women, your distance.

I'm glad she's putting a stay on the D and asking you back, but I'll be blunt: you only get ONE shot at this critical stage of it, and I'll tell you what nearly EVERYONE does wrong at this point:

They immediately go all "melty-man."

She has to EARN her way back, and you need to be ready with what your list of boundaries are for when she asks "What will it take?"

DO NOT WAVER.

Puppy