Originally Posted By: Puppy Dog Tails
Originally Posted By: DanF
Quote:
Originally Posted By: DanF
Dan: "OK, I'm sure the kids will miss you, but this is probably for the best if I just take them. Look, I gotta run and (insert GAL activity here). I'll talk to you later."

Puppy
Do you see how this RESPONSE is validating your W's decision that D is the best answer? Do you see how this is not pursing behavior?
I see it. Still learning. I have to prepare for these situations better. After conversations, I always think, "I should have said ths, or I should have said that." I need to practice the outcomes before I get myself into these situations. I am not always so quick on my feet.

No big deal. So follow up with her, immediately, and say "You know, the more I think about it, there's really nothing to think about, and I don't mean to keep you hanging. I'm sure the kids will miss you, but this is probably for the best if I just take them. Look, I gotta run and (insert GAL activity here). I'll talk to you later."


"What is best for my kids is best for me"

Persevere = happily being patient over a long period of time