PH--no worries, no pain. Just more insight.

I vacillated for years over whether X was the right guy for me. But one reason I stuck was exactly what you said: [/quote]I used to think that I made my choice to be with him so I had to stick with it no matter how I felt now[/quote].

And now I can see that doesn't, or didn't, make sense. You both deserve to be loved, made weak in the knees, etc.

SF will give you both some space to breathe, and see what head, heart, guts say. I think they do all three have to align in order to know you are making the best decision.

Thoughts with you!