I have to wonder if what you wrote below applies to my X. Sounds like it. Compatible, great projects together, but he felt the lack of spark. It hurts to read this, but it is also good to think about.

[/quote]Many people tell me that they don't think I am in love with BF. I tell them that I know I love him and people can't be in love all the time, it just doesn't work that way. Does it? I don't want to utter the dreaded ILYBNILWY, but I know that it's true. There is no longer a spark or a feeling of deep connection on my part. I was at my cousin's wedding a couple weeks ago and cried at their vows because the sentiment was so beautiful and I know I don't feel that way about BF.

On the flip side, we have a good life together. We compliment each other. We get along well. We have fun together. We weathered a terrible storm and our relationship has improved somewhat. We have been together for almost 10 years and that's nothing to sneeze at

So basically it's the same old, same old.[quote]

You've been working at this a long time. You also say: it feels like a weight has been lifted.

That seems big, to me. I always believe that your stomach knows what the right thing to do is. And our heads and hearts often don't agree.