Swimming against the current - PH in piecing

[pearlharbr]

That was the point of having that convo, WA. I told him I wanted to discuss it and find out what he was thinking about it. I said I understand that there are lots of reasons not to move, too, and I wanted to discuss them all so we could make the right decision. Yes, I want to move to SF but I also want to do what is best for me, for him, and for us.

I think when it comes down to it that BF will move to be with me. He said before he would because it's what I wanted. I'm just not sure he will like living there. I'm much more of a city person than him. But ultimately I'm ok with that. IF being in SF is what will make me happy and BF is unhappy then I can live with that being a reason to split up. In Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay one of the criteria is how you envision your future lifestyle. We already can't agree on how we want to retire (small town v city) so SF will be a trial run. And I may decide it's not where I ultimately want to be, I don't know. What I do know is that it's where I want to be right now and that if BF will not give me any reasons not to go then I'm going.