Have I got this right, pearl?

You are starting job hunting in SF, and are heading there with or without BF?

How will you handle the job hunting? just by email from home? and see if BF picks up on all these calls and emails and "help-wanted" ads coming in from sunny CA?

And then see if he initates R talk?

Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process