The flowers are a lovely gesture. I'm glad he did that.

Originally Posted By: pearlharbr
Just one of those things that we always argue about and will continue to argue about. He invited people over to the house without telling me. I hate that because I want to make sure the house is at least picked up if someone is coming. He doesn't think it's a big deal even after years of me saying it is a big deal to me.

I would find this very annoying too. I'm not clear whether he is saying that having the house picked up when people come over just isn't a big deal to him, and therefore he has trouble remembering to inform you,


Is he saying it isn't a big deal to him and therefore it shouldn't be a big deal to you either, so he's not going to bother telling you?

If the latter, I find that troubling. Sometimes things matter to other people that don't matter to us. When the request is so simple, we don't have to understand it or agree with it, you just give the other person the simple courtesy.

Is there anything which is important to him that you don't think is a big deal that you might start 'forgetting' to do? whistle