The OW-look-alike was a big trigger. I have no experience w/this, but can only say... have you really forgiven him if this type of thing keeps coming up? He, obviously, makes some great efforts for your relationship. What's missing?
And, the "talking..." A lot of LBW's here deal with this same thing. Not sure what the answer is, because it JUST SUCKS. They talktalktalk about everything else in life, but what's important!
HUGS FRIEND
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.