The forgiveness issue is a tricky one for me. He refused to ask for forgiveness for so long and it really pissed me off. By the time he did I was more angry about the fact that he didn't ask for so long.
I think I have forgiven him for the affair. I understand what each of us contributed to the problems leading up to it. I understand why he, wrongly, thought it was the only way to feel better. I know that he is truly sorry and is sincere in working on changes to make things better.
But there is a little piece of me that doesn't forget that it felt like pulling teeth to get to this point. I was beating my head against a wall and ready to give up several times. I wonder if it will always be like that--he will do as little as possible until I am ready to walk away and then he'll step up with a big gesture to smooth things over for a while.
That's what I don't think I have forgiven for--his behavior after the fact.
Guess I should put that book on my library list.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
