It has caused problems in the communication. I tend to get angry, explode and then talk things out right then. BF wants to take in all the info and sit on it for a few days before responding. It's very difficult and that's why I stopped pushing him to talk after the first year. Big mistake. But at least we understand that now and are both trying to make accommodations for the other person's style.

Other than that, I never saw it cause any problems. We had our separate hobbies and took trips alone but I love that about us. I don't want to feel like I'm living with a clone. Because he's handy he taught me how to do basic repairs on my car and around the house. Because I grew up eating Chinese food I introduced him to dim sum. Stuff like that.

Of course when he was having his A he insisted that we were too different and didn't have anything in common. He cited his love of playing softball and volleyball. So I asked if OW played softball and volleyball. Yeah, that's what I thought. When he wrote me a letter asking for another chance he included a long list of common interests.

I called my gf but just got VM. Hopefully I'll be able to talk to her tomorrow.

If you love somebody, set them free.