Yes, IC does sound as though it would be a beneficial thing to do, for you.
I just wanted to weigh in on the trust issue. Over on Marriagebuilders there's a piece in which (Dr Harley) says we should never fully give our trust to anyone. If we assume/trust our spouse will never cheat on us, that leads us to stop continually working on our R. He adds, heck, can he ever be sure he can trust himself? Without constant work, we become complacent, but it's not good to take our S or our R for granted. So a new R wouldn't really solve the problem.
In my own M, post-MLC and OW, I decided that I could never entirely be sure whether my H deserves my trust. As long as he is relaxed, affectionate, undepressed, I can be pretty sure he's not secretly reconnecting with OW, but at times when he's stressed out and grumpy it's harder to tell. So, I determined that whether or not he is trustworthy is his issue, not mine. I will act as though I trust him (ie. not get all insecure and questioning when he's standing outside the car texting someone in the dark, or whatever). If it ever turns out that he betrayed my trust again, that would have been his choice, and our R would be over. But I choose to act like a person who is trusting behaves, because I do not want to see myself as forever "broken" by something another person did.
I don't know if that helps. I'm not sure, by the way, that I believe that one person in each R is out of the other's league. I tend to think that we choose people who complement us, who are our equal-but-opposite, who can help us learn the lessons we need to learn (which goes both ways).
