Interesting... OW in my case also seems to be a female version of a "player". The pastor who told me the details of the PA also let me know he is aware of her "sexual involvement with at least one other person", my H has asked around since breaking it off with her to find out that other M men at their workplace had been hit on by OW, and even when my H was with her once she gave her phone number to another man right in front of him! But, he thought she was "in love" with him and going to marry him, etc etc etc. Scarey.... already at these tricks at 23.
Anyway, Pearl I appreciate your clarification about "bad choices" vs. "bad person". There is a difference, IMO. In our process of forgiving our spouses and piecing, it is helpful to recognize this. My H made some very bad choices and he is dealing with the consequences of that. OW, however, in my books, is a "bad person" and I don't believe I ever will forgive her either.
Glad to hear H4U that the triggers do get a bit better over time as our S "gets it". Hope that is true!
Pearl... those shoes are fabulous! I would definitely go back for them if I were you. Remember how we talked about wearing pumps to do housework... those are the ticket!
