Swimming against the current - PH in piecing

[pearlharbr]

Thanks for the pep talks everyone.

We did go away for the weekend. It was touch and go right before we left but I decided to suck it up and just try not to think of it. And as you and my BFF pointed out, it was never about OW specifically, she was just there when he decided to be self-destructive. He definitely cheated down because she's not nearly as attractive (see, my self-esteem is fine these days ;)) and as BF says, she has no personality. Plus she is a predator who has a history of going after married men and not one of them yet has stayed with her.

The weekend was pretty lowkey. Sat morning we slept in then hit the slopes. After lunch we met up with a couple friends who showed up for the day and skied the rest of the day with them. Sat night we went out to dinner at a steak place, had a couple drinks while watching the end of the football game, then went back to the condo. We had originally planned to hang out with friends who have a place up there but no one went up last weekend. Then we were going to hang out with other friends who decided to come up but they blew us off. Whatever!

Sun morning BF said ILY because you're so much fun. I know he just said it because of my concerns because it was a pretty mundane weekend. He insisted that he has fun just hanging out with me. We got up, went to breakfast, then our timeshare presentation (that's how we got the cheap weekend rate). After that ordeal was over we headed back to town listening to Christmas music the whole drive. We spent the rest of the evening watching football.

So nothing spectacular but nothing bad either.

I found out yesterday that a friend from HS is going to be in town for Christmas so I invited him over for dinner. It will definitely change the dynamic but that might be a good thing. The holidays are full of triggers and I'm trying to stay on an emotional even keel. If someone else is in the house I'm way less likely to burst into tears.

I spent all day yesterday writing my annual newsletter and getting my Christmas cards out. I skipped the letter last year for obvious reasons and heard back from several people that they missed it. I put off doing it this year because I just wasn't sure what to say. I decided that the people who know what was going on last year also know we're working things out and those who don't know will never notice a difference. So I talked about the good things since the summer and left it at that.

Today I will finally start baking my cookies if I can ever get off these boards!