Hi Pearl,
I haven't had time to read your whole thread, but I have appreciated your input in my sitch.

You know, I was thinking the other day that this crisis that happened in my M has actually helped me to "clean house" in many areas of my life. I have learned who my true friends are, and I have learned a lot about myself in terms of what I will tolerate and not tolerate in ANY R. Maybe that is part of what is happening for you too?