I am a first time poster and have just finished DB myself.
I must say I am following the same way of behaivior as mentioned. I am dont want to be too optimistic, but there are certainly positive signs. I won't let her read DB but she knows I am reading it. I am doing some positive 180's in my behavior patterns and it is doing wonderful things for me personally. Joining a fitness center, taking some me time, doing things for me that I should have always done.

I know there are no promises but things look better and its only been 10 day +/-.

I am always willing to listen and take advice or criticism...so go ahead everyone thats why I am here.