Originally Posted By: Sgfan
I have to say being separated from my wife really gave me the space to be able to formulate goals and GAL away from the daily pain and drama.

I think Stuck is on to something regarding cutting her off. For me, it wasn't money it was my friendship and that was predicated on a commitment. No marriage, no friendship. She got to choose to leave and she saw the results of that decision and it caused her to rethink her choice. Unfortunately, like you John you throw an OM in the mix.....

I'm always amazed at the rationalization WAS's use to justify thier actions.


First question: what are you a "fan" of? Second, I'd like to hear more about your sitch, especially how long you separated from your W and what happened to both she and you during that time. Was there an OM involved? You mention that losing your friendship in conjunction with the M caused her to rethink her choice yet I see you have an upcoming D date- my condolences. What happened?

M: 41
W: 39
S: 11
S: 10
D: 4
1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09
EA began: 2/14/09
EA discovered: 3/1/09
I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself