Good to hear you had fun in Vegas! I can understand why those kind of thought bother you. It's difficult, but with time they will go away.
About the bar thing: I think it was a nice gesture of BF to offer to just leave if you weren't comfortable! He's really committed to making sure you don't have to be reminded of that part of history. I'm glad you decided to stay though. You said that had you left, then the whore wins, but that's not true! The whore has already lost: BF is with you! That bar may remind you of the past however, but you'll just have to build some good memories there to make it your place.
About the anniversary thing: I don't think it's a good idea to ignore the whole thing. That just shows that you don't care, especially in this piecing stage, where you're rebuilding the R. I'm not saying to organize a romantic weekend getaway with vow renewals, but more like going out to dinner to a special place you don't go to very often. Has BF organized something for your anniversary in the past?
