I think a better way to describe "cake eating" would be to say she is wanting to have her A, but she wants all the benefits of being M, too. Expecting you to shower her with kindness and attention when she's being a WW. I don't guess I'm doing a good job at explaining...... frown

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!