Sam, you're right, in the past I did convey the message that I didn't want to ML but would just go along and that really got to BF. Honestly I didn't want to but since I learned that I had practically zero testosterone and have taken steps to fix that I am trying to "just do it" while waiting for the hormones to rise. I think BF is just so sensitive to anything sounding like "no" that I'm trying to be as direct with him as possible. I just don't want to have to tell him repeatedly, "Yes, I want this, I just want a quickie." It's a process.
And don't ever worry about talking about your own sitch. That's why I'm here, to see what others are going through and learn from communal experience. Plus you know that I'm following your sitch.
v1olin, yep, that's what happened with us. Now that I know I'm determined not to let it happen again.
We're off to Vegas tomorrow. We're both really looking forward to it. I'm bringing some new dresses that show off the results of my GAL activities of walking, dance and exercise classes, and some lingerie. Plus there will be no R talks or reading, just three days of fun.
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I think BF is just so sensitive to anything sounding like "no" that I'm trying to be as direct with him as possible. I just don't want to have to tell him repeatedly, "Yes, I want this, I just want a quickie." It's a process.
Plus there will be no R talks or reading, just three days of fun. 