Swimming against the current - PH in piecing

[pearlharbr]

Yes, what I am expecting BF to say is "You have nothing to worry about"

Would that have calmed your mind?

Actually, yes. Probably not completely but it would definitely have stopped the ramping up of emotions.

"What can I/we do to reassure you?"

What would your answer have been to that question?

Meet the new people I don't know, give me a detailed itinerary, call every evening. Things we've already discussed. None of this is new, he just isn't doing the things we've already agreed on and it's frustrating that I have to remind him constantly. And the fact that he can tell what's bothering me and doesn't just jump in. He admits that he knows what's going on and what to say to calm me down but he just doesn't do it. He said he will work on not being afraid to interrupt me and difuse the situation.

We did talk last night. I brought up all of the things that were bothering me and he responded to each one. Although I dislike being a waterworks on a regular basis it does feel good to get things out in the open and resolved rather than just let them build up.

One surprising thing I got out of the conversation was that he is jealous from time to time and always has been, he just never said anything because he knows that I can take care of myself and he trusts me. I know it's a Catch-22 situation but I explained that I need to feel like he's a little bit protective of me because I'm worth protecting. He said he does feel that way but didn't want to come across as possessive.

So in the end we kissed and made up and spent a restless night on the bad mattress. I remember why I got the Tempur-Pedic! Hopefully I'll remember that when I get annoyed that we spend all our time together at the house rather than his apartment.