What I was saying in my post above wasn't meant as it's not normal for you to feel this way. It was to say it IS normal for you to feel insecure at this point, this state of mind. But YOU have to get out of that state of mind, don't rely on BF to get you out of that.
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Yes, what I am expecting BF to say is "You have nothing to worry about"
Would that have calmed your mind?
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"What can I/we do to reassure you?"
What would your answer have been to that question?
I think you are expecting him to get you out of this way of thinking by his actions, but what I am saying is that he can't. At some point or another, it's gonna take some blind trust that you probably are not ready to give, but you just have to. If that trust is then not broken, then you will start feeling comfortable with that level of trust, and so on. BF can't build your trust in him without you giving him some.
Same thing about replaying hurtful actions from him in the past. It builds anger and resentment, but what do you gain with that? BTW, it's all normal! I have these thoughts daily, trust me! But I have learned to let it go and I get over my anger and resentment in a couple of minutes now. During my vacation, she would do some things that remind me of hurtful moments and I got angry, but she's right there and so I HAD to get it out of me and I was able to. Try to look for the positives and the future, I believe that is the way forward.
