Had a little issue with BF tonight. We were talking and he mentioned going on another business trip the week after next. I told him I wasn't sure how I felt about him travelling with women who I'd never met and his response was he didn't know what to say (in a very flip tone). I got a little angry and said the least he could do was say nothing would happen and if he couldn't do that we are moving backwards.
Argh, this is just so frustrating! I know I can't ask him not to go on business trips, I'm just looking for some reassurance. I've told him that I need a lot of that right now. And yet he sounds like he's tired of it already. It's only been two months! This is what I was afraid of, it's too comfortable and he's expecting everything to be back to normal but it's only normal on the surface. Then I get angry wondering where he gets off being pissy with me when it's his actions that got us here. Grr.
Pearl,
Why do you assume that your BF has this perfect bag of tools to help him deal with this new start with you? Perhaps HE is struggling as well to know what to say to you, how to act, etc.?
Maybe it's just me, but I keep getting a sense of "I can never win with you" when I read your posts about your interactions with him. And it sounds like he didn't handle it well, I'm not saying that he did. But you admit yourself that your stance (that he can't take business trips) is unreasonable, so why is YOUR unreasonableness, HIS problem?
Not trying to be a dikk, Pearl -- you know I luv ya -- but this is how it's coming across to me, as a guy.
