Swimming against the current - PH in piecing

[pearlharbr]

I get that Sam. Honest. Even if it didn't sound like it. That's the way it used to be. Sometimes I make plans if I find something I want to do and other times we just wing it. He really doesn't like to plan so it's not like I'm not giving him the opportunity, he simply prefers for me to do it and just go along.

Re: other guy, no, I'm sure BF didn't see him as a threat. My point is that he should see every man who is flirting with me as a potential threat. Just enough to want to check him out. For example, when BF gets a new female coworker/employee and starts talking about her I always have a twinge of jealousy until I meet her and get a vibe for her myself. I've been this way the entire time we've been together, not just since OW. Rationally I know it's nothing (well, I used to) but my gut just wanted to make sure for myself. That's the level of jealousy I'm looking for in him but I guess it's just not the way he's wired.